I like your goals.

In order to reach out to one's abuser, I think it takes a certain degree of openness that transcends personal interest. Most people today don't seem to have that, on any side. I think it magnifies the loneliness that one would feel anyway, simply being different.

I would like to suggest, for reflection rather than discussion, that a large part of the problem is the politicization of trans issues. Politics is always about emphasizing differences; but if we want the majority of society to accept us as we are, they must connect with us in our sameness.

The sad truth of this is that, because politics has driven us apart, it is only through suffering that we will come back together as human beings. We know what that means for our side; but the other side suffers, too. They are encouraged to fear us and hate us; and fear and hate are punishments all their own.

Politics has positioned both sides to lose. There is no painless way forward; but suffering shared is suffering halved. Find a kindred soul, and hang on.