I think there are two steps to reconciliation with cis society-at-large.

First, we have to come to terms that gender divergence and trans womanhood are matters of belief, not objectively demonstrable fact; and, as such, neither, in a free society, can legitimately be the basis for law, public policy or civil rights. To put it bluntly, we cannot prove that we aren't all simply deluded or fantasizing, and therefore cannot compel society to interpret our condition the way we do. We can prove that we are gender dysphoric, and that's it.

Second -- and this is more subtle -- it cannot be ignored that all so-called facts are, in the end, merely beliefs; and the question must be asked, at what point do the beliefs in the reality of gender and trans womanhood achieve that status of public facts? In a free society, simply this: when a critical mass of the members of society acknowledge them to be facts, or sufficiently factual to be the basis of law, public policy or civil rights.

I do not know at what point that critical mass will be achieved; but, at that point, we will be able to say that we have arrived at full acceptance.

This is, in my opinion, how gay marriage came to be legitimized. People just didn't care anymore, and were willing to give gay people a pass -- to treat the legitimacy of their unions as sufficiently factual to justify legal protection. It will work the same way for us; but it will take time, perhaps a lot of time, and many trans people won't want to wait. Unfortunately, no non-organic solution will endure; and, the more trouble caused by trans activists, the more difficult will be resolution and the longer it will take to achieve it.